Pyaar, Dosti hai?

I'm going to start by saying that all of this is just a part of me reminiscing moments of my life, realizing friendships that I've cherished and want to talk about.

1st of August 2021: Friendship Day.

If there is one thing that lingers in my mind constantly and which rubs off of the phrase "Maa Ka Pyaar", then it is "Dosti".

Regardless of the growth in other aspects, they have to broaden their boundaries like the concept of love not being so stereotypical anymore or in words gender limited or the nonsensical evolution of politics in this country. Don't mind, my future 40+-year-old self is very much annoyed about it, I feel the topic for today is subtle enough for everyone because we have all walked on this same path.

Remember when Rahul replied to Miss Braganza saying, "Pyaar Dosti Hai." which meant love is friendship? What a way to sell a movie. Kudos to Karan Johar, because he provided a lot of content to the meme world through this film. Through this, we have seen that even today, it's hardly possible for a boy and girl to just be friends. As hard as it is to be, Karan Johar just gave people the license to do so.

Friendship, being a blessing as it is, is one of the most significant chapters of life, which has its hand on most of the parts of your life. During my School Days, I used to get pretty pissed off at my mother for being the judgemental judge who passed verdicts on my friends. Eventually, I called it a coincidence or "motherly instinct" it turned out to be true, and then years later when I saw a tweet on the same, and realized, that everybody goes through that.

I whispered to myself THANK GOD! Amma if you are reading this from the hall, everybody has that sense, and it's not just you. okay? Coming back to my point, the period through school - high school- and now that I completed my graduation, I have experienced a bundle of friendships in terms of joy and betrayals. From being called kiddo and watching 24 yr olds fighting on who gets to sit beside the birthday girl, to watching juniors being way more serious about giving space and respecting thoughts. Been there and done that.

I was a proud tom-boy who loved the fact of how great I got along with guy friends more than girls. I still do, but I also learned something different over the course of time.

" To respect and value something, you need to see the version of it that fits you."

While explaining to my youngest sister the complications of being a female or in real words, the concept of periods and sex, I stumbled on this ritual wherein, on the fourth day of girls' first period, 4 individual women are supposed to come and bathe you as a sign of letting everybody know that we have a grown woman in the house, who is now capable of being married and reproducing.

My sister was angry, did not speak to anybody, and also didn't even understand the ritual. I mean I totally understand her point and would have cried with her about it if it was 5 years back. But now that I have had myself in positions like being saved in the metro from a creep, being lent a pad in the club washroom, and Peacefully crying in the middle of the bus without being judged, I felt different because I realized that women stand for women. The whole reason for me narrating such a big ass and somewhat pointless story is to embrace the point of women supporting each other and that girl friendship, even though it might bitchy and there might not exist a "bro-code" we don't need to feel each other's pain to understand it? samjha?

To I wanted to end by saying that I would alter our dear Rahul's dialogue and say, "Dosti, Pyaar Hain." Having endless and unconditional love for someone without being physically attached is a big deal, especially today. Officially open to new friendships and ever outgrowing some, waiting for the day when there are lesser complications that arise, and in a world that actually doesn't take it all as a KJO movie fact, you can't express your love for someone unless you are mutually exclusive or in love. Everything in this world is quite complicated already, let's keep it simple now because it's okay.

Because Dosti, Pyaar hai Guys!

Until Next time,

XOXO, Aarya.